Tag: polyamory
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Polyamory as an Identity
Many people in polyamorous relationships identify as "being" polyamorous, but Dan doesn't. In this blog post, he tries to understand how polyamory is an identity for some, but not for others, and explains why it isn't one for him.
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Ask for What You Want
There's a psychological concept called the anchoring effect. If you apply it to successful polyamorous relationship strategies, you get an unpleasant result. Dan justifies how he ignores that result.
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Busy Weekends Part II
Following up on my post about the weekend before the weekend before last - here's what I got up to the weekend before last (i.e. the weekend after that). You can see why I'm confused:
Ruth's Family Picnic
The weekend before last, JTA and I joined Ruth and her family at their "annual family picnic". This family … -
The 17 Blog Posts That Weren't
It may come as a surprise to you that the stuff I write about on my blog - whether about technology, dreams, food, film, games, relationships, or my life in general - isn't actually always written off-the-cuff. To the contrary, sometimes a post is edited and re-edited over the course of weeks or months before …
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BiCon 2009
This weekend, I was at BiCon 2009 (my third BiCon - I guess that makes it a tradition), and it was awesome. Here's a short summary of the highs and lows:
Travel
Worcester's closer than I remembered, and - once Claire'd gotten used to the Vauxhall Astra we'd rented - we made good time there and back. … -
Claire Goes To Pisa
So, last weekend Claire moved out of The Cottage and into her new flat, the top floor of a somewhat-slanted building on Queen's Road which I've tken to calling Pisa. I gather she's planning a flatwarming party in the afternoon - if you're on the Abnib Events SMS list, you'll already have heard about this, …
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Satisfied
I saw XKCD #584 - "Unsatisfied" - this morning. In the comic (in a slightly Sliding Doors way), a man chooses between one of two lovers, and spends the rest of his life thinking about the other one in a "what if" kind-of way, leaving him ultimately unsatisfied with his life, regardless of which he …
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Kissing At Midnight
In a fleeting thought, as I passed the greengrocer hanging our mistletoe outside his shop this morning, I found myself thinking about the unusual situation I'm in, in that I'll this year be spending New Year's Eve with both of mygirlfriends.
Who do I kiss at midnight?
Thankfully, the solution is clear - this year at least … -
8 words
Ruth wrote:
Coming out to my mother as bisexual was something I thought about for years before finally taking the plunge. Braced for tears and recriminations, I was amazed and pleased to be greeted only with love and support.
Which was why telling her I was poly remains one of the most difficult things I've … -
How to be Mono-Friendly
Freaksexual just wrote a fantastic blog post (as usual) instructing monogamous people "How to be Poly-Friendly". It's an excellent little post about the kinds of faux pas it's easy to make without even thinking about it, and while it's very obviously targetted at monogamous folk who have polyamourous friends or lovers, I couldn't help but …
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Pictures From PolyDay 2008
For the benefit of people I promised pictures to, here's some of the photos I took at PolyDay 2008, the post-Dossie Poly Meal, and generally during Claire and I's trip to London this weekend. There are more photos I'll share in due course, little doubt, and my write-up of what PolyDay was like, which I …
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BiCon Fun And Games
It's been hard to find time to post a blog entry here, with everything that's been going on. Here's the quick rundown so far:
Thursday. Arrived. Checked in. Accommodation is a lot like Penbryn, for those who know what I mean, although with bigger (but more sterile-feeling) bedrooms. Caught up with loads of folks from last … -
Year One - A Happy Post That Everybody Will Misunderstand To Be An Unhappy One
Ruth and I celebrated the first anniversary of our being a couple, this weekend. She came down to Aber and we took the steam train up to Devil's Bridge, wandered around the waterfalls, and spent a good few hours sitting in a pub (pretty much the pub in Devil's Bridge, tiny place that it is) …
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Reasons To Tick The "It's Complicated" Box
Assuming you're reading Abnib in chronological order, you're already aware that Claire and JTA split up a little while ago. I don't think I've ever seen so mutual, so on-equal-terms, so amicable a breakup, ever. While Ruth and I sat on the beach and discussed how we'd need to be ready to provide support to …
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Valentine’s Day
None of the four of us (JTA, Ruth, Claire and I) had planned to make anything special out of Valentine's Day, which is why I was quite surprised last night to come home from work and find The Cottage kitted out with candles as part of Ruth's last-minute secret plan to cook a romantic meal …