Tag: relationships
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Polyday Politics workshop
Grant ran a workshop on politics (and law) around polyamory, at a recent event. I wasn't there, but enjoyed reading his notes after-the-fact... and wanted to use the opportunity to share some of my own thoughts and experiences.
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The Husbands by Holly Gramazio
One of the best books I've read so far this year (although my review is about three months late!) was Holly Gramazio's debut novel, The Husbands. A proper page-turner that keeps you engaged through all of its twists and turns, I can't recommend it strongly enough.
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Boring Polyamory: Equality and Bedrooms
The other month, I described my polyamory as 'boring', which attracted lots of interesting questions and feedback. Let's address the first one - why does my partner not have a bedroom of 'her own', even though both of her partners get one?
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My Polyamory is Boring
A conversation with another openly-polyamorous blogger led us to ask one another why we don't write about our relationship structure more-often. In my case, the answer is simple: my relationships are boring, and that's a good thing! But here's your chance to tell me I'm wrong...
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Can it perhaps be time that we stop saying "ethical non-monogamy"?
Nobody feels the need to say "ethical monogamy"; monogamous folks are given the benefit of the doubt and assumed to be practicing a relationship ethically.
I feel like polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy are now sufficiently accessible to popular culture that we can drop the word "ethical" and still be understood. (Ideally we do so before it starts to look like virtue-labelling.)
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Breakups vs Layoffs
I've had a few breakups, but I've only been made redundant once. There's a surprising overlap between the two! Here, let's put a Venn-Euler diagram together...
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Calculating the Ideal "Sex and the City" Polycule
When Juan Pablo Sarmiento thought to himself "couldn't Sex and the City's love triangles be squared-away by polyamory?" he didn't just sit down and write slashfic. No; he came up with a formula for idealised polycules, and open-sourced the algorithm. That's my kind of nerdity!
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Shared Email Addresses
I've long mocked people who've opted to use email addresses that they share with their partner, or email addresses that are tied to their geographic location... but it turns out that I've been doing the same thing for years, albeit only with aliases.
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Out as Poly at Work
I've been "out" about my polyamory in every job I've had for the last 20+ years. I recommend it.
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Household Finances Revisited
A year or two ago, my polyfamily and I switched from an "income-assessed" to a "same-residual" model for managing our household expenditures. If the former could be described as "socialism at home", the latter is more like "household Universal Basic Income".
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Making a Home of Each Other (The Eggs)
Lucy Bellwood shared the story of how her wife produced a breakfast dish they called The Eggs, and it's the first and only "here's a recipe, but first my life story" article I've ever loved.
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Polyam Lingo
Dr. Doe vlogged about polyamorous terminology and Dan learned a thing or two.
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The Varieties of Intimate Relationship
The Information Is Beautiful folks have made an infographic showing how different kinds of relationships relate to one another. It's a relationship-relationship diagram!
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Confused.com Confuses Me
Confused.com's user interface makes Dan cry when he tries to comparison-shop car insurance. Here's why.
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Human Tapestry - Episode 1
Dan features in the inaugural episode of a new podcast about the diversity of human experience of relationships, sexuality, attraction, and the like.