Tag: polyamory
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Polyday Politics workshop
Grant ran a workshop on politics (and law) around polyamory, at a recent event. I wasn't there, but enjoyed reading his notes after-the-fact... and wanted to use the opportunity to share some of my own thoughts and experiences.
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Boring Polyamory: Equality and Bedrooms
The other month, I described my polyamory as 'boring', which attracted lots of interesting questions and feedback. Let's address the first one - why does my partner not have a bedroom of 'her own', even though both of her partners get one?
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My Polyamory is Boring
A conversation with another openly-polyamorous blogger led us to ask one another why we don't write about our relationship structure more-often. In my case, the answer is simple: my relationships are boring, and that's a good thing! But here's your chance to tell me I'm wrong...
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A Random List of Silly Things I Hate
Just a list of eleven random silly things that I hate, to various degrees.
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My partner and her husband (my metamour) have a tradition that every 5th wedding anniversary they get the "next size up" of champagne bottle.
This meant that on yesterday, when we celebrated their 15th, we needed to get through a Methuselah: a massive 6 litre bottle equivalent to nine standard bottles of champagne (rightmost in the attached picture).
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A half bottle, standard bottle, magnum, Jeroboam, and Methuselah of Bollinger champagne lined up on a window ledge, with a banana for scale.
It's times like these you're glad of friends you can call on to help you drink such a monster!
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Can it perhaps be time that we stop saying "ethical non-monogamy"?
Nobody feels the need to say "ethical monogamy"; monogamous folks are given the benefit of the doubt and assumed to be practicing a relationship ethically.
I feel like polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy and other forms of non-monogamy are now sufficiently accessible to popular culture that we can drop the word "ethical" and still be understood. (Ideally we do so before it starts to look like virtue-labelling.)
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Happy Polyamory Day y'all. (Plus max props to Petra without whom I'd have forgotten about it, like most years.)
Closest thing I did to celebrating it was going out to the pub last night for beer and food with my metamour, while our partner-in-common took our kids to see a film. Polyfam life isn't always glamorous; but it is full of love.
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Scots Fire Brigade Union demand new legal protections for people with more than one romantic partner
Scotland's Fire Brigade Union is calling for legal protections for the polyamorous. Wait, what?
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Calculating the Ideal "Sex and the City" Polycule
When Juan Pablo Sarmiento thought to himself "couldn't Sex and the City's love triangles be squared-away by polyamory?" he didn't just sit down and write slashfic. No; he came up with a formula for idealised polycules, and open-sourced the algorithm. That's my kind of nerdity!
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Shared Email Addresses
I've long mocked people who've opted to use email addresses that they share with their partner, or email addresses that are tied to their geographic location... but it turns out that I've been doing the same thing for years, albeit only with aliases.
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Out as Poly at Work
I've been "out" about my polyamory in every job I've had for the last 20+ years. I recommend it.
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[Bloganuary] Traditions
By virtue, perhaps, of being a three-parent family, we draw family traditions from a wider array of sources than many. And then we supplement those with even more that we've adopted from elsewhere or invented for ourselves. Want to hear about some of them?
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Household Finances Revisited
A year or two ago, my polyfamily and I switched from an "income-assessed" to a "same-residual" model for managing our household expenditures. If the former could be described as "socialism at home", the latter is more like "household Universal Basic Income".
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Normal for Children
The natural state of a child is to assume that their upbringing, their family, and thier community is representative and normal, so we all end up growing up with learned "quirks" that we don't discover until they're challenged. How many do you still harbour?
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Ideal #2 (SMBC)
Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal
The SMBC comic that came out this weekend was perhaps the best birthday present the Internet could provide.