Tag: relationships
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Poly and the Census - Part Two
Still no reply from the Office of National Statistics... but somebody's put in a Freedom of Information request now asking a very similar question.
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Poly and the Census
Dan engages in a little polyamory activism, writing to the Office of National Statistics to ask for their assurances that the data submitted on the census he shares with the other Earthlings will be correctly recorded and that the fact that his partner has ticked both the "partner" and "husband or wife" boxes (for different people) will not be treated as a mistake. I wonder what they'll have to say about that...
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Polyamory as an Identity
Many people in polyamorous relationships identify as "being" polyamorous, but Dan doesn't. In this blog post, he tries to understand how polyamory is an identity for some, but not for others, and explains why it isn't one for him.
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Ask for What You Want
There's a psychological concept called the anchoring effect. If you apply it to successful polyamorous relationship strategies, you get an unpleasant result. Dan justifies how he ignores that result.
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On This Day In 2009
Looking Back
On this day in 2009 I'd just announced that Claire and I had broken up after our seven year relationship. I attacked Virgil's omnia vincit amor (love conquers all), countering that our love for one another was not sufficient to prevent the difficulties we'd been having. That the breakup was among the most structured, … -
The 17 Blog Posts That Weren't
It may come as a surprise to you that the stuff I write about on my blog - whether about technology, dreams, food, film, games, relationships, or my life in general - isn't actually always written off-the-cuff. To the contrary, sometimes a post is edited and re-edited over the course of weeks or months before …
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My Friends Are Amazing
I'd just like to take a moment to say how amazing my friends are. It's likely to be a little sappy: for those of you who like your blog posts on the other side of the wall, please switch off your eyes now.
Earlier this month, I blogged about Claire and I's break-up. For many of … -
The Break-Up
Yesterday, Claire and I broke up.
We've had several rough months, and several even rougher weeks, and this seemed to be the best solution to a variety of difficulties we've faced recently. It's hard to answer the question as to whether the split could be described as mutual, but it can certainly be described as amicable, … -
Keeping Me Up
Had another strange dream a few nights ago (my blog posts are being published with a bit of a delay on them, at the moment, for reasons I might discuss in another blog post!) that I thought I'd share, before waking up early and being unable to get back to sleep.
Dream - Putting a Cap … -
Claire Goes To Pisa
So, last weekend Claire moved out of The Cottage and into her new flat, the top floor of a somewhat-slanted building on Queen's Road which I've tken to calling Pisa. I gather she's planning a flatwarming party in the afternoon - if you're on the Abnib Events SMS list, you'll already have heard about this, …
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8 words
Ruth wrote:
Coming out to my mother as bisexual was something I thought about for years before finally taking the plunge. Braced for tears and recriminations, I was amazed and pleased to be greeted only with love and support.
Which was why telling her I was poly remains one of the most difficult things I've … -
Year One - A Happy Post That Everybody Will Misunderstand To Be An Unhappy One
Ruth and I celebrated the first anniversary of our being a couple, this weekend. She came down to Aber and we took the steam train up to Devil's Bridge, wandered around the waterfalls, and spent a good few hours sitting in a pub (pretty much the pub in Devil's Bridge, tiny place that it is) …
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Bryn And Heather
I don't want to stir up trouble, and I don't have any intention to take sides. I'm going to say a couple of things, for which I fully expect to be misinterpreted and I'm all set for the barrange of comments I'll get hereafter. But hey, that's enough disclaimerism. On to the controversy:
In case you … -
Valentine’s Day
None of the four of us (JTA, Ruth, Claire and I) had planned to make anything special out of Valentine's Day, which is why I was quite surprised last night to come home from work and find The Cottage kitted out with candles as part of Ruth's last-minute secret plan to cook a romantic meal …
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Reactions To The Unholy Alliance
Here's a blog post I've been meaning to write for several months now: it's about some of the varied and different ways that people reacted to the news that Ruth and I were together, and that Claire and JTA were also a couple (and, of course, Ruth and JTA are still the fabulous pair they …