Indeed, you’re absolutely right. Unfortunately it isn’t always possible in the UK to gain all the same rights as a married couple without actually being married, simply by having a solicitor draw up some documents – for example, the rules about parental rights and responsibilities are complicated (and there are occasionally cases where the law takes a side that is contrary to the wishes of everybody involved!) but having a will is still a great idea.

And changing your name by deed poll rather than by marriage is a great way to symbolise your relationship (I’ve done the same myself, and I’ve helped many others to do so, too): well done!