Well said, deconstructing the pathways of abuse and where it leads to psychologically is long overdue a rethink IMO.
I do believe that people often fail to see how necessary empowerment is to someone that can feel they’ve had their power removed.
Eg. the people that say ‘I’ll kill them for what they’ve done to you’ are, on some level, saying I will do what you couldn’t and should have done to protect you – it’s well meaning (unless they actually do it!!!) but at it’s root undermines your (still very functioning, but possibly in need of nurture) ability to look out for yourself.