You talk of polyamourous people not allowing others to think that they’ve been cured of polyamory whilst in a monogamous relationship.

Whilst I can see that the term polyamourous is valuable in assigning a group name and identity doesn’t it actually refer to a state of affairs, in the same way as married, engaged or single? It doesn’t really matter if I’m polyamourous or monogamous since I am single in the same way whilst a person may be willing to be polyamourous whilst in a monogamous relationship they are, at that time, monogamous.

I realise that there are certain similarities with bisexuality (i.e. whilst a bisexual person is dating a member of one gender it does not mean that they are no longer attracted to members of another gender) but the term polyamory strikes me as being a description of current relationships, not of potential relationships.

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I have to dash to work now, so I apologise if the above is badly phrased or comes across as insulting. I’m only intending to debate the use of a word.