That was very interesting reading; thanks for posting.
I confess I have trouble understanding people who have a problem with anything involving consenting, happy adults. The only confusion your relationship status (which, let’s face it, has fuck all to do with me anyway) has given me was the small matter of addressing your launch party invitation, which was why I gave up and scrawled an apologetic note explaining on the note itself. I can’t help but wonder how many of the people who might typically express shock (to whatever degree) at a poly relationship situation have cheated on their partner in the past, or at least been more philosophical when they heard of someone they know who did cheat – both situations in which hurt feelings are inevitable, which surely makes them more open to criticism than ethical sluttishness. But anyway, that’s pure speculation, so I’ll move on from that.
As for the people whose first reaction is “I don’t know if I could do it”, again, I’m confused, and not exactly sure why they have to make everything about them, so to speak, in this way. Maybe it’s a way for them to approach the world and form their opinions about it (empathy gone awry?), but if it is, it’s a flawed method, for reasons you already stated.
Anyway, as I say, personally I think that any ethical relationship (a term which might benefit from further discussion, I know, but there are so many hours in the day and I can’t be arsed) which makes the people in it happy is fine by me. Or nothing to with me. Or both. I forget.
All the best to all you horrible slags. ;)